Worthiness: What it is and why it matters.
Updated: Jan 11
If you don't believe you deserve good things, you wont seek them out.
A lot of us harbor negative ideas about ourselves that were imbedded by toxic people that are often close to us, or responsible for our emotional development (think, parents). These people were, or are still, suffering in some way or another. They say hurtful things, do hurtful things, and make us believe that the hurt and pain is deserved. They point out our mistakes, our short comings, our flaws, and make us believe THAT is why bad things happen to us. We start to find ways to make it make sense. And the easiest thing to do in order to make it make sense, is to simply believe it. Growing up, I was emotionally neglected. My tears, my fears were always invalidated because it was an inconvenience to try and help me with them. I achieved so much but got very little genuine acknowledgement by the one person I knew should care the most. Then, when a friend, a crush, or anyone else hurt me, it just validated that I was indeed, meant to be hurt. I was not worthy.
When you begin to undo these toxic and negative thoughts and beliefs about yourself, you start to realize that, no, this is not true at all.